War
One of the strange
threads of lovelessness that pervades human history
is the cruelty of war. Leaders and their led have, from the ancient days of
Viking conquest through the mindless cruelty of Hitler to the countless deaths
from hundreds of mini-wars going on today to terrorist attacks to gang warfare in the streets,
inflicted the most horrendous tortures on their fellow human beings. The choice
of war is easily explained as a choice of power, riches, and the perverse
pleasures of pain.
It is simple to define
a group as an enemy, be they another nation, race, or merely a group of people
with whom you disagree. For those who choose the physical pleasures of power
over love, the conversion of human beings into the enemy, and from an enemy into
inanimate targets, is simple and automatic. Perhaps it is accompanied by some
form of logical argument such as freeing of the oppressed, creation of a master
race, etc. Perhaps it is supported by a vocal cadre of men, women, and children
urging on the conquest of the infidel, the bourgeois, the communist, etc.
Whatever the rationale, the bad guy is defined, the good guy is identified, and
the war is on.
The view of the enemy
depends a great deal on the reason for the war. Initiators of the confrontation
may see themselves as breaking the bonds of economic oppression, and thus
"love" the victims but hate their leaders. They may see themselves as
protectors of freedom, or religious soldiers, or any other manner of noble
warrior who hates no one and who kills only so others may live. Or they may see
themselves as simple killers, whose mercenary skills are listed on employment
applications. Each of these groups, no matter what the rationale, kills people.
Soldiers sometimes
adopt intense devotion to their own families, as though they receive some
cooling balm from those relationships that makes their actions toward others
less real. The intensity of "love" of family that accompanies combat
is a prelude to the destruction of true love that is the inevitable result of
war. Though it may appear love plays some part in the motivation for fighting,
by its very nature love can only be a victim of warfare.
For those who
understand love, it is not hard to condemn war as the opposite of love. It is
less easy, however, to condemn the deterrence or containment of war. If, for
example, the presence of nuclear arms prevents a war, can such weaponry be a
tool of peace? Can someone threaten to destroy an entire nation out of love for
its inhabitants? The answer must come from your understanding of love. What
does appear true to me is that humankind will always have among it human beings
whose choice of physical pleasures will lead them to war. The person who
espouses disarming must accept that the consequence of doing so may literally
be the death and/or subjugation of the majority of the human race. Indeed, the
elimination of the nuclear weapons umbrella might return the world to
confrontations between troops armed with conventional weapons that would kill
and maim millions.
On the other hand, a
world without weapons might be a world at peace. I am not suggesting that there
could ever be a reason for actually using nuclear weapons, as opposed to the
maintenance of a peacekeeping bluff. Nor am I suggesting love does not require
an absolute rejection of use of any violence, I believe it does. What I am
saying is that if we are to be honest with ourselves, we know that if we reject
violence even in self-defense we must accept that the possible consequences include
pain and death.
You never "have" to commit any violent act against another, it is always your choice to do so or not. If love requires rejection of all violence against another human being, as I believe it does, those who understand love should understand it is worth enduring pain in this life if accepting such pain leads to love, both now and in whatever existence follows death. Death followed by a joyful eternal life of love seems far superior to a pleasant life followed by a loveless eternity. We need to remember that no matter how hard we try to avoid our inevitable deaths, the fact is that we live lives that are no more than single grains among the infinite sands of time.
Indeed, even though the urge to change course when confronted with pain or death is incredible, it is not the choice to accept pain or death which may lead to misery, but rather it is the choice not to love that can truly destroy both your life on earth, and any possibility you may have of a joyous life after death. To trade love now, and perhaps forever, for more time for pleasures on earth may seem like a fine idea at the moment, but it is in fact the very worst choice anyone can make. If love is right, even one choice not to love is wrong, and may end in the loss of eternal love. We discuss this very difficult conclusion in more detail in the note A Fanatic Life Or A Normal Life?
Where are we? We have
said that since existence may not end at death, you should live for the
possibility you will continue to exist after your physical death and, in
anticipation of that continued existence, you should do the best you can while you
are alive. We said it is always your choice to love or not to love. We said
that if you understand love you know that the best anyone can do for other
people is to love them, therefore you should always choose love. We said it is
reasonable to believe life after death will offer eternal love for those who
choose to love each other while on earth. We concluded that since each of us
must die, it is totally right to love on earth and enter a "heaven" of
never-ending love, even if choosing love brings physical death,
and it is totally wrong not to love, even if not loving prolongs earthly life
and pleasures.
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